Ego is a need.it is a social need, it is a social by-product.Everybody is adding our ego, and everybody is trying to modify it in such a way that we don't become a problem to the society.
Ego always in search of food, that somebody should appreciate it. That's why we continuously ask for attention.We get the idea of who we are from others. Others shape our center.
One center we come with, which is given by existence itself. That is the self. And the other center, which is created by the society, is the ego. Through the ego the society is controlling us.
Without the screen of the ego, there are moments. One is the dreamless sleep.and the others are love and sex. In dreamless sleep the ego completely disappears. If you have two hours of deep dreamless sleep, in the morning you are new, fresh, alive. Everything seems to be new, because you are new. So make it a point that sleep is very valuable. don't miss it for any reason. if you follow a regular pattern of sleep the body will find it easier and the mind will find it easier to disappear.
In lovemaking, totally the ego disappears, because at the highest peak, at the highest climax of lovemaking, you are pure energy. The mind cannot function. With such joy, with such an outburst of energy, the mind simply stops.Thats why, both sleep and love fetches the joy , the bliss.In both experience , we are totally out of Ego.
Try to see your own ego. Just watch it. The more you watch, the more capable you will become.Suddenly one day, you simply see that it has dropped.
When you are mature through understanding, awareness, and you have felt totally that ego is the cause of all your misery, simply one day you see the dead leaf dropping. After dropping , you can be with the real center the soul, the self, the god, the truth.