Wednesday, January 24, 2007

An answer to a Blogger Question..

Q: "Being alone is heaven " one soul said. That is not the truth.
Sharing is heaven"

A: Like to be alone is completely different from feeling loneliness. The exact meaning for loneliness is unhappy .Because you have no friends or people to talk to, you feel the loneliness. Loneliness is a sad feeling feel by a person when he misses something aroud him. But aloneness is, something , a person like to be with.

A person who like to be alone, chooses the environment where he/she feels the enjoyment within himself/herself. It is a tendency of being detached from the group, without planning or trying to be alone from the group. No one can do any practice to develop that tendency of being alone.

I am not saying, being alone is heaven for someone who really don’t want to be alone. There are people who like to be with a group, like to share things with the group. I am not declaring , aloneness fetches you heaven in earth, if you adopt that. Instead, I said, the people who like to be alone finds more enjoyment with their aloneness.

I can even say in a simple way too. Sharing needs two people atleast. If the other person , whom we like to share our things may differ from the thoughts of what we share to him/her. Sharing expects recognition.

Why we like to share things?.

We like to put ourself in a comfort zone by sharing. It is one of the way of getting recognition from the person to whom we share our things. Its all depend upon the person. We would like to share our things to people who are ready to listen/accept/console. Sharing doesn’t mean to be positive all the time. It also includes criticisms/difference of opinions.

Sharing can happen with a person often, if he/she gives you the comfort of understanding. We cant share things with everyone, even when we like to be in the group. Sharing is possible only with people who has better understanding about us and about the concept what we deliver. It’s a kind of happiness we feel, when someone really understand us or listen us wholeheartedly. Most of the people prefer to share things with others. They feel some peace by sharing.

The people who prefer to be alone feels the same peace , even they are out of group. I am not degrading the people who like to be with the group. But I can say, for SOME, being alone is preferable and they feel more enjoyment while they are alone compare to be with the group.

Thursday, January 11, 2007

LIFE also has it's own life..

Life is known as to be an all or nothing, battle between misery and bliss. Sometimes life is just okay, sometimes it is comfortable, sometimes wonderful, sometimes boring, sometimes unpleasant. too. When our day is not perfect, then we consider that into a failure or a loss.

We already know that we have to live life as it comes. But , We are not aware of the fact. We have an expectation of being happy or we expect life should give us happiness all the time. We just cant take a day with sorrow as an another day.

Life moves on, whatever happens. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would be realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end.

Life's up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine our values and goals. We have to think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life as we want. Instead of looking at life as a narrow funnel, we can see it ever-widening to choose the things we want to do.

We can get to know about the value of life from a person who is in the death bed. We really don’t understand the worth of life and the time we spent on it. We can realize that when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, that we begin to live each day to the future. As if it was the only one we had.

“I couldn't care less what anybody says about me. I live my life, especially my personal life, strictly for myself.... Whatever you do, you're going to be criticized.I feel the one sensible thing you can do is try to live in a way that pleases you. ~ Johnny Carson

Face life with an open mind. So that every moment can become a source of beauty and joy. Life is full of golden moments for people , if they have the vision to recognize it as such.