Did you know that Babe Ruth, a famous baseball player, was once a pitcher? At one point he made the deliberate decision to stop pitching so he could focus on batting. He took a lot of heat for his decision because he was a GOOD pitcher. He stuck with his decision though because he knew he had the motivation to be a GREAT batter.
Often the difference between being good and being great is making adjustments that allow you to spend more of your time developing your greatest strengths.Ever had an annual performance review where the first part was about the wonderful things you did that year, but then the focus quickly shifted to a discussion about shoring up your weaknesses? It’s an all-too-common scenario. And it’sprobably a waste of time.
The "fix your weaknesses" school believes that with enough discipline, determination and training, anyone can do anything.Unfortunately, it confuses weaknesses and limitations. Weaknesses reflect a lack of skill (how to do something) or knowledge (what you know).Weaknesses can be overcome by education, training,experience and practice. On the other hand, limitations reflect a lack of motivation (what you do well naturally). These really can’t be overcome, because new motivations can’t be acquired.
In fact, if a person has low motivation in a particular area,spelling for example, there is very little likelihood that he or she will ever be a great speller. The best they will be is adequate. Who wants to be adequate?It’s a much better idea to build on your strengths.If you want to move up from being good to being great, know what your talents and motivations are, and build on them.Why? Because you will develop what you do best and enjoy most. These are your strengths, and they are yours for life.You can build on them, and they won't let you down. Think about it: what would your life be like if you got paid to do what you do best and truly enjoy? Awesome, isn’t it?
Courtesy: Assessment.com
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Saturday, February 10, 2007
Tears tares the ego..
Tears, idle tears,
Stop!
Tears, soulful tears,
Start!
Tears, helpless tears,
Continue!
Tears, determined tears,
Reach!
~
Before I accepted The life of aspiration,
My tears were the tears Of real sorrow.
Now that I have accepted The life of aspiration,
My tears are not tears of sorrow But tears of real joy.
~
I like the tears That flow from the depth Of my helpless despair.
I love the tears That flow from the depth Of my dawning aspiration.
I adore the tears That flow from the depth Of my Liberation-sea.
-Sri Chinmoy
What! a lovely poem.. hmm I feel the same way as expressed in the poem..
Tears are the only outlet to ventilate one's extreme emotions like sorrows & happiness. Only humans can get to know what is smile and how it spreads over as a mood , which is healthy and also welcome by everyone. As we accept Smile while being happy, and so should we have to accept the tears while being sad. Tears are always considered to be an unwanted way of expression in one’s life. As long as, emotions are part and parcel of our life, we just cant avoid tears.
In fact, one should feel happy to get tears at their eyes. It’s a right way of ventilating and understanding one’s own feeling, whether the feeling is sad or happy. Tears shows the depth of the feeling. From tears , we are about to know our own personality, the values we respect, and it also strengthen one’s mind to get out of the sad mood.
I love to cry more.. Because , only those tears showed me who I am in different environment.
Stop!
Tears, soulful tears,
Start!
Tears, helpless tears,
Continue!
Tears, determined tears,
Reach!
~
Before I accepted The life of aspiration,
My tears were the tears Of real sorrow.
Now that I have accepted The life of aspiration,
My tears are not tears of sorrow But tears of real joy.
~
I like the tears That flow from the depth Of my helpless despair.
I love the tears That flow from the depth Of my dawning aspiration.
I adore the tears That flow from the depth Of my Liberation-sea.
-Sri Chinmoy
What! a lovely poem.. hmm I feel the same way as expressed in the poem..
Tears are the only outlet to ventilate one's extreme emotions like sorrows & happiness. Only humans can get to know what is smile and how it spreads over as a mood , which is healthy and also welcome by everyone. As we accept Smile while being happy, and so should we have to accept the tears while being sad. Tears are always considered to be an unwanted way of expression in one’s life. As long as, emotions are part and parcel of our life, we just cant avoid tears.
In fact, one should feel happy to get tears at their eyes. It’s a right way of ventilating and understanding one’s own feeling, whether the feeling is sad or happy. Tears shows the depth of the feeling. From tears , we are about to know our own personality, the values we respect, and it also strengthen one’s mind to get out of the sad mood.
I love to cry more.. Because , only those tears showed me who I am in different environment.
Friday, February 09, 2007
I read from a blog..
Lies We Believe About Feelings:
Most of what we currently believe about emotions is false. Here are some of the beliefs we have about feelings. These beliefs are not all inclusive, because each individual, each family and each culture has unique beliefs regarding emotions, most of which are not true. But knowing about these lies may help you to unravel the mystery of our past and how we got captured.
LIE #1: There are "good" feelings and "bad" feelings.
TRUTH: ALL FEELINGS ARE GOOD!
All feelings are good because they reflect back to us how an experience is affecting us. If we pretend that certain feelings are bad, rather than the experience is making us feel bad, it is like we are beating the wagon to make the horse move. Now, some feelings we do enjoy more than others; and we would like to continue to feel some feelings and stop feeling others. But the way to stop feeling an emotion we do not like is to stop experiencing whatever it is that is painful or hurtful.
LIE #2: We can decide how we are going to feel.
TRUTH: FEELINGS CANNOT BE DICTATED.
You can choose to change your mind, but you cannot just choose to change your feelings, not without damaging your soul and possibly losing a large part of yourself. You can tell a child not to be angry at someone, but that will not stop the anger. It will only teach a child to hide the anger and suppress the feelings, AND, MORE IMPORTANTLY, teach the child that feelings are wrong or bad. Feelings are important to us because they tell us what we like and don't like. I will say this over and over again. I may react to something differently than you do because my reaction (which comes from my feelings), comes from who I am. You may not like to swim and your feelings tell you so. I may love to swim and my feelings tell me so. Each person is unique. Each person's feelings come from the deepest part of the self, to tell us who we are and how we want to live our lives and what we want to do and who we want to be with. We must not let the mind or intellect tell us what to do, when it is contrary to how we feel. The intellect, when it is working at its best, is making decisions for us and for our good based on how we feel.
LIE #3: Feelings lie. They are an unreliable barometer of the truth.
TRUTH: FEELINGS ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH
Our emotions are our surest way to know what is true about any situation. Our emotions always tell us the truth long before the mind can understand a situation or discern danger. This is partly because the mind is primarily a linear thing. It sees, thinks, and makes decisions in a linear fasion. Whereas the discernment that comes from our soul, our emotions, is very different. Our emotions respond to feeling nuances in a situation as a whole, even without mental understandings. You might be used to thinking of this as instinct, intuition, gut reaction, sensing. Whatever you call it, the emotions have the power to keep us safe and help us understand the world and ourselves by telling us the whole truth about a person or situation. However, there is a problem: when emotions go unexpressed, they freeze in time. What this means is that we often respond to a present day situation with a backlog of stored frozen emotions from our past. This is inappropriate, obviously, but that doesn't mean the emotions are lying. All it means is that in order to be able to respond and feel truly in the present with all of our resources, we need to heal all the old trapped, frozen emotions we have locked up in the attic.
LIE #4: Once you have experienced emotional trauma and deep pain, you are stuck with the feelings forever and must learn to live with them, overcome them and ultimately suppress them.
TRUTH: ALL FEELINGS, PAST OR PRESENT, CAN BE RELEASED COMPLETELY AND WILL BE GONE FOREVER.
Once feelings have been released, wonderful natural processes begin to spontaneously activate. A re-evaluation process takes place and gives you new understanding. Awarenesses that you did not have before lead to changed beliefs and new decisions, and an outpouring of love and forgiveness takes place automatically. There is no hurt that cannot be healed, whether it is a hurt we have given or hurt we have received. All hurt feelings can be released until they are gone. This is part of the miracle of how feelings work if they are allowed to function naturally.
Our feelings must be allowed to surface and we must process them if we are to understand what they have to teach us. Unprocessed feelings do cause many problems. But feelings that have been accepted, honored and allowed to move through tears, are the most valuable tool we have.
LIE #5: You are what you feel.
TRUTH: FEELINGS ARE NOT SET IN STONE AND THEY ARE NOT AN INDICATION OF WHO YOU ARE.
As long as emotions are allowed to express organically, as long as they are not suppressed or judged, they can heal and evolve. You can feel murderous hatred and desire to kill someone. This does not make you evil or bad. This doesn't make you a murderer (unless you ACT on the feeling). All it means is you have a feeling that needs acceptance and expression, and once given those two precious gifts, will move itself to healing and will no longer be whatever it was. It will evolve naturally and spontaneously into something else. We all suffer under the weight of this lie that says what we feel is who we are, and therefore we try our best to suppress all feelings that we judge as bad, wrong, evil, or unloving.
Most of what we currently believe about emotions is false. Here are some of the beliefs we have about feelings. These beliefs are not all inclusive, because each individual, each family and each culture has unique beliefs regarding emotions, most of which are not true. But knowing about these lies may help you to unravel the mystery of our past and how we got captured.
LIE #1: There are "good" feelings and "bad" feelings.
TRUTH: ALL FEELINGS ARE GOOD!
All feelings are good because they reflect back to us how an experience is affecting us. If we pretend that certain feelings are bad, rather than the experience is making us feel bad, it is like we are beating the wagon to make the horse move. Now, some feelings we do enjoy more than others; and we would like to continue to feel some feelings and stop feeling others. But the way to stop feeling an emotion we do not like is to stop experiencing whatever it is that is painful or hurtful.
LIE #2: We can decide how we are going to feel.
TRUTH: FEELINGS CANNOT BE DICTATED.
You can choose to change your mind, but you cannot just choose to change your feelings, not without damaging your soul and possibly losing a large part of yourself. You can tell a child not to be angry at someone, but that will not stop the anger. It will only teach a child to hide the anger and suppress the feelings, AND, MORE IMPORTANTLY, teach the child that feelings are wrong or bad. Feelings are important to us because they tell us what we like and don't like. I will say this over and over again. I may react to something differently than you do because my reaction (which comes from my feelings), comes from who I am. You may not like to swim and your feelings tell you so. I may love to swim and my feelings tell me so. Each person is unique. Each person's feelings come from the deepest part of the self, to tell us who we are and how we want to live our lives and what we want to do and who we want to be with. We must not let the mind or intellect tell us what to do, when it is contrary to how we feel. The intellect, when it is working at its best, is making decisions for us and for our good based on how we feel.
LIE #3: Feelings lie. They are an unreliable barometer of the truth.
TRUTH: FEELINGS ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH
Our emotions are our surest way to know what is true about any situation. Our emotions always tell us the truth long before the mind can understand a situation or discern danger. This is partly because the mind is primarily a linear thing. It sees, thinks, and makes decisions in a linear fasion. Whereas the discernment that comes from our soul, our emotions, is very different. Our emotions respond to feeling nuances in a situation as a whole, even without mental understandings. You might be used to thinking of this as instinct, intuition, gut reaction, sensing. Whatever you call it, the emotions have the power to keep us safe and help us understand the world and ourselves by telling us the whole truth about a person or situation. However, there is a problem: when emotions go unexpressed, they freeze in time. What this means is that we often respond to a present day situation with a backlog of stored frozen emotions from our past. This is inappropriate, obviously, but that doesn't mean the emotions are lying. All it means is that in order to be able to respond and feel truly in the present with all of our resources, we need to heal all the old trapped, frozen emotions we have locked up in the attic.
LIE #4: Once you have experienced emotional trauma and deep pain, you are stuck with the feelings forever and must learn to live with them, overcome them and ultimately suppress them.
TRUTH: ALL FEELINGS, PAST OR PRESENT, CAN BE RELEASED COMPLETELY AND WILL BE GONE FOREVER.
Once feelings have been released, wonderful natural processes begin to spontaneously activate. A re-evaluation process takes place and gives you new understanding. Awarenesses that you did not have before lead to changed beliefs and new decisions, and an outpouring of love and forgiveness takes place automatically. There is no hurt that cannot be healed, whether it is a hurt we have given or hurt we have received. All hurt feelings can be released until they are gone. This is part of the miracle of how feelings work if they are allowed to function naturally.
Our feelings must be allowed to surface and we must process them if we are to understand what they have to teach us. Unprocessed feelings do cause many problems. But feelings that have been accepted, honored and allowed to move through tears, are the most valuable tool we have.
LIE #5: You are what you feel.
TRUTH: FEELINGS ARE NOT SET IN STONE AND THEY ARE NOT AN INDICATION OF WHO YOU ARE.
As long as emotions are allowed to express organically, as long as they are not suppressed or judged, they can heal and evolve. You can feel murderous hatred and desire to kill someone. This does not make you evil or bad. This doesn't make you a murderer (unless you ACT on the feeling). All it means is you have a feeling that needs acceptance and expression, and once given those two precious gifts, will move itself to healing and will no longer be whatever it was. It will evolve naturally and spontaneously into something else. We all suffer under the weight of this lie that says what we feel is who we are, and therefore we try our best to suppress all feelings that we judge as bad, wrong, evil, or unloving.
Wednesday, January 24, 2007
An answer to a Blogger Question..
Q: "Being alone is heaven " one soul said. That is not the truth.
Sharing is heaven"
A: Like to be alone is completely different from feeling loneliness. The exact meaning for loneliness is unhappy .Because you have no friends or people to talk to, you feel the loneliness. Loneliness is a sad feeling feel by a person when he misses something aroud him. But aloneness is, something , a person like to be with.
A person who like to be alone, chooses the environment where he/she feels the enjoyment within himself/herself. It is a tendency of being detached from the group, without planning or trying to be alone from the group. No one can do any practice to develop that tendency of being alone.
I am not saying, being alone is heaven for someone who really don’t want to be alone. There are people who like to be with a group, like to share things with the group. I am not declaring , aloneness fetches you heaven in earth, if you adopt that. Instead, I said, the people who like to be alone finds more enjoyment with their aloneness.
I can even say in a simple way too. Sharing needs two people atleast. If the other person , whom we like to share our things may differ from the thoughts of what we share to him/her. Sharing expects recognition.
Why we like to share things?.
We like to put ourself in a comfort zone by sharing. It is one of the way of getting recognition from the person to whom we share our things. Its all depend upon the person. We would like to share our things to people who are ready to listen/accept/console. Sharing doesn’t mean to be positive all the time. It also includes criticisms/difference of opinions.
Sharing can happen with a person often, if he/she gives you the comfort of understanding. We cant share things with everyone, even when we like to be in the group. Sharing is possible only with people who has better understanding about us and about the concept what we deliver. It’s a kind of happiness we feel, when someone really understand us or listen us wholeheartedly. Most of the people prefer to share things with others. They feel some peace by sharing.
The people who prefer to be alone feels the same peace , even they are out of group. I am not degrading the people who like to be with the group. But I can say, for SOME, being alone is preferable and they feel more enjoyment while they are alone compare to be with the group.
Sharing is heaven"
A: Like to be alone is completely different from feeling loneliness. The exact meaning for loneliness is unhappy .Because you have no friends or people to talk to, you feel the loneliness. Loneliness is a sad feeling feel by a person when he misses something aroud him. But aloneness is, something , a person like to be with.
A person who like to be alone, chooses the environment where he/she feels the enjoyment within himself/herself. It is a tendency of being detached from the group, without planning or trying to be alone from the group. No one can do any practice to develop that tendency of being alone.
I am not saying, being alone is heaven for someone who really don’t want to be alone. There are people who like to be with a group, like to share things with the group. I am not declaring , aloneness fetches you heaven in earth, if you adopt that. Instead, I said, the people who like to be alone finds more enjoyment with their aloneness.
I can even say in a simple way too. Sharing needs two people atleast. If the other person , whom we like to share our things may differ from the thoughts of what we share to him/her. Sharing expects recognition.
Why we like to share things?.
We like to put ourself in a comfort zone by sharing. It is one of the way of getting recognition from the person to whom we share our things. Its all depend upon the person. We would like to share our things to people who are ready to listen/accept/console. Sharing doesn’t mean to be positive all the time. It also includes criticisms/difference of opinions.
Sharing can happen with a person often, if he/she gives you the comfort of understanding. We cant share things with everyone, even when we like to be in the group. Sharing is possible only with people who has better understanding about us and about the concept what we deliver. It’s a kind of happiness we feel, when someone really understand us or listen us wholeheartedly. Most of the people prefer to share things with others. They feel some peace by sharing.
The people who prefer to be alone feels the same peace , even they are out of group. I am not degrading the people who like to be with the group. But I can say, for SOME, being alone is preferable and they feel more enjoyment while they are alone compare to be with the group.
Thursday, January 11, 2007
LIFE also has it's own life..
Life is known as to be an all or nothing, battle between misery and bliss. Sometimes life is just okay, sometimes it is comfortable, sometimes wonderful, sometimes boring, sometimes unpleasant. too. When our day is not perfect, then we consider that into a failure or a loss.
We already know that we have to live life as it comes. But , We are not aware of the fact. We have an expectation of being happy or we expect life should give us happiness all the time. We just cant take a day with sorrow as an another day.
Life moves on, whatever happens. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would be realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end.
Life's up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine our values and goals. We have to think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life as we want. Instead of looking at life as a narrow funnel, we can see it ever-widening to choose the things we want to do.
We can get to know about the value of life from a person who is in the death bed. We really don’t understand the worth of life and the time we spent on it. We can realize that when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, that we begin to live each day to the future. As if it was the only one we had.
“I couldn't care less what anybody says about me. I live my life, especially my personal life, strictly for myself.... Whatever you do, you're going to be criticized.I feel the one sensible thing you can do is try to live in a way that pleases you. ~ Johnny Carson “
Face life with an open mind. So that every moment can become a source of beauty and joy. Life is full of golden moments for people , if they have the vision to recognize it as such.
We already know that we have to live life as it comes. But , We are not aware of the fact. We have an expectation of being happy or we expect life should give us happiness all the time. We just cant take a day with sorrow as an another day.
Life moves on, whatever happens. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would be realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end.
Life's up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine our values and goals. We have to think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life as we want. Instead of looking at life as a narrow funnel, we can see it ever-widening to choose the things we want to do.
We can get to know about the value of life from a person who is in the death bed. We really don’t understand the worth of life and the time we spent on it. We can realize that when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, that we begin to live each day to the future. As if it was the only one we had.
“I couldn't care less what anybody says about me. I live my life, especially my personal life, strictly for myself.... Whatever you do, you're going to be criticized.I feel the one sensible thing you can do is try to live in a way that pleases you. ~ Johnny Carson “
Face life with an open mind. So that every moment can become a source of beauty and joy. Life is full of golden moments for people , if they have the vision to recognize it as such.
Sunday, December 31, 2006
New year __/\__ Resolutions..!
Everyone has the special regards over the first day of the year. All over the world, the new year celebrations are well planned to welcome the forthcoming year. People used to accustom with grand parties over night and these are all the sign of opening the year with warmth.
Some people used to take resolutions and they set a goal to achieve them , through out that year. Resolutions,if carried out successfully, not only act as short-term goals to success but also helps to improve life and overcoming those habits, which we do not like.
The unfortunate reality is that , for most people, the year goes by with little or no change. We do our jobs and live our lives, but our dreams don't come true. Some things do change, but life doesn't seem all that different. Not like we hoped..
The New Year is a good time to make resolutions. but what is the point of taking resolutions,if we can't keep them.We need to have the desire, the will power to execute the plan .We should plan the requirement a month before the new year eve. So that, We can strengthen the ways of executing them.
Take time to review the last year resolution and Measure the success with your actual requirement. This will help you to know, where you lack and what could be done further to fullfil it. Be clear with what you need and what you are going to achieve.Take only one resolution at a time. So that ,the focus can be core. Decide , what reward can be given to you after you achieve the target. This will boost up your desire whenever you slow down the process.
Sometimes its easy to forget the resolution after the New Year euphoria passes away, and one is tempted to postpone the resolution to the next year. Plan to remind yourself of it throughout the year. Write your resolution and stick it , in a place where you can see it often.
Enhance your strengths, act against your weakness and see what and how you can utilize the opportunities for the year and see, whether you have to prepare yourself against any threats.
Wish you all have a Happy and Prosperous New Year 2007..
Some people used to take resolutions and they set a goal to achieve them , through out that year. Resolutions,if carried out successfully, not only act as short-term goals to success but also helps to improve life and overcoming those habits, which we do not like.
The unfortunate reality is that , for most people, the year goes by with little or no change. We do our jobs and live our lives, but our dreams don't come true. Some things do change, but life doesn't seem all that different. Not like we hoped..
The New Year is a good time to make resolutions. but what is the point of taking resolutions,if we can't keep them.We need to have the desire, the will power to execute the plan .We should plan the requirement a month before the new year eve. So that, We can strengthen the ways of executing them.
Take time to review the last year resolution and Measure the success with your actual requirement. This will help you to know, where you lack and what could be done further to fullfil it. Be clear with what you need and what you are going to achieve.Take only one resolution at a time. So that ,the focus can be core. Decide , what reward can be given to you after you achieve the target. This will boost up your desire whenever you slow down the process.
Sometimes its easy to forget the resolution after the New Year euphoria passes away, and one is tempted to postpone the resolution to the next year. Plan to remind yourself of it throughout the year. Write your resolution and stick it , in a place where you can see it often.
Enhance your strengths, act against your weakness and see what and how you can utilize the opportunities for the year and see, whether you have to prepare yourself against any threats.
Wish you all have a Happy and Prosperous New Year 2007..
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Indian woMEN......!
The Position of Women in India ,right from the ancient through medieval to the modern times has always attracted debate. Some scholars said that women enjoyed greater freedom in the days of yore, others hold that the opposite is true.women have always been fighting for equal recognition in society.
In India, the roles traditionally assigned for men and women are that of bread-winners and home-makers, respectively. but nowadays, women have to play their roles in both the ways. In the last decade, women’s approach towards the society was different. They realized that they were at the back and they jumped into the field of work like forming women’s liberation clubs, meets etc.
Did they achieved what they aimed??
Ofcourse, They did.Today women with their smartness, grace and elegance have conquered the whole world. They with their hard work and sincerity have excelled in each and every profession. Women are considered to be more honest, meticulous, and efficient and hence more and more companies prefer hiring women for better performance and result.
By the result of this, women got engaged, all most in all fields of work. As I told before, they are supposed to play their roles at home as homemakers as well as bread winners. The pressure is doubled now. As a women, I can appreciate the efforts and efficiency of women community who fought for the equal recognition in the society. At the same time, women have to spend more energy to meet out the Situation arises both at home and also at the work spot.
Indian men are same as the days of yore till this modern time. They never change their ideas and they got conditioned in such of way of doing work only at the office.They like to be more comfortable and they are also ready to title the women as the energetic, smarter than them, by doing things both at home and office.
We enjoy the freedom now and we tasted it too. But we are not aware about the pressure what we undergo. Thats why, we are capable of doing things. How far it goes like this..
Where we missed ……..????
In India, the roles traditionally assigned for men and women are that of bread-winners and home-makers, respectively. but nowadays, women have to play their roles in both the ways. In the last decade, women’s approach towards the society was different. They realized that they were at the back and they jumped into the field of work like forming women’s liberation clubs, meets etc.
Did they achieved what they aimed??
Ofcourse, They did.Today women with their smartness, grace and elegance have conquered the whole world. They with their hard work and sincerity have excelled in each and every profession. Women are considered to be more honest, meticulous, and efficient and hence more and more companies prefer hiring women for better performance and result.
By the result of this, women got engaged, all most in all fields of work. As I told before, they are supposed to play their roles at home as homemakers as well as bread winners. The pressure is doubled now. As a women, I can appreciate the efforts and efficiency of women community who fought for the equal recognition in the society. At the same time, women have to spend more energy to meet out the Situation arises both at home and also at the work spot.
Indian men are same as the days of yore till this modern time. They never change their ideas and they got conditioned in such of way of doing work only at the office.They like to be more comfortable and they are also ready to title the women as the energetic, smarter than them, by doing things both at home and office.
We enjoy the freedom now and we tasted it too. But we are not aware about the pressure what we undergo. Thats why, we are capable of doing things. How far it goes like this..
Where we missed ……..????
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Monday, December 18, 2006
Boost up your self esteem..!
Having good self-esteem is the ticket of making good choices about your mind and body. If you think you are important, you'll be less likely to follow the crowd. If you have good self-esteem, you know that you are smart enough to make your own decisions. You value your safety, your feelings, your health - your whole self! Good self-esteem helps you know that every part of you is worth caring for and protecting.
Following are six behaviors that increase self-esteem, enhance your self-confidence, and spur your motivation. You may recognize some of them as things you naturally do in your nteractions with other people.
First, greet others with a smile and look them directly in the eye. A smile and direct eye contact convey confidence born out of self-respect.
Second, always show real appreciation for a gift or complement. Don’t downplay or sidestep expressions of affection or honour from others. The ability to accept or receive is a universal mark of an individual with solid self-esteem.
Third, don’t brag. It’s almost a paradox that genuine modesty is actually part of the capacity to gracefully receive compliments. People who brag about their own exploits or demand special attention are simply trying to build themselves up in the eyes of others and that’s because they don’t perceive themselves as already worthy of respect.
Fourth, don’t make your problems the centerpiece of your conversation. Talk positively about your life and the progress you’re trying to make. Be aware of any negative thinking, and take notice of how often you complain. When you hear yourself criticize someone - and this includes self-criticism - find a way to be helpful instead of critical.
Fifth, respond to difficult times or depressing moments by increasing your level of productive activity. When your self-esteem is being challenged, don’t sit around and fall victim to ‘paralysis by analysis’.
Sixth, choose to see mistakes and rejections as opportunities to learn. View a failure as the conclusion of one performance, not the end of your entire career.
Self esteem test
Following are six behaviors that increase self-esteem, enhance your self-confidence, and spur your motivation. You may recognize some of them as things you naturally do in your nteractions with other people.
First, greet others with a smile and look them directly in the eye. A smile and direct eye contact convey confidence born out of self-respect.
Second, always show real appreciation for a gift or complement. Don’t downplay or sidestep expressions of affection or honour from others. The ability to accept or receive is a universal mark of an individual with solid self-esteem.
Third, don’t brag. It’s almost a paradox that genuine modesty is actually part of the capacity to gracefully receive compliments. People who brag about their own exploits or demand special attention are simply trying to build themselves up in the eyes of others and that’s because they don’t perceive themselves as already worthy of respect.
Fourth, don’t make your problems the centerpiece of your conversation. Talk positively about your life and the progress you’re trying to make. Be aware of any negative thinking, and take notice of how often you complain. When you hear yourself criticize someone - and this includes self-criticism - find a way to be helpful instead of critical.
Fifth, respond to difficult times or depressing moments by increasing your level of productive activity. When your self-esteem is being challenged, don’t sit around and fall victim to ‘paralysis by analysis’.
Sixth, choose to see mistakes and rejections as opportunities to learn. View a failure as the conclusion of one performance, not the end of your entire career.
Self esteem test
Sunday, December 17, 2006
Get ! Set ! Go....
It's a well known fact that the biggest reason most people fail to achieve any real success in their life is....they never plan to. They want to. They dream about it and fantasize about it. They talk about success. Maybe they even read success books, listen to success tapes and attend success seminars.However, the sad fact is that unless a person has some incredible luck (like winning the lottery), their chances of succeeding without a plan are almost nil.
Some goal setting tips to keep in mind,which I read in an article.
Make goals meaningful. Goal setting for the sake of goal setting almost always ends in disappointment. Goal setting is simply a tool to use in achieving a favorable outcome — what some people call a “Dream.”
Use positive language and the present tense when setting a goal. It is better to say “I weigh a healthy, trim and fit 60 kgs” than “I want to lose 20 kgs.”
Always put your goals in writing. Every expert agrees that setting a goal without putting it in writing drastically reduces your chances of success.
Goal setting should take place in every area of your life, including Health, Relationships, Spiritual, Career and Financial.
Setting Life Goals will add dimension, excitement and texture to your life. Failure doesn’t always mean that you did something wrong in your goal setting or implementation. It may just mean that the time you allotted for success wasn’t adequate. A thorough review process should be undertaken before setting the goal again.
Some goal setting tips to keep in mind,which I read in an article.
Make goals meaningful. Goal setting for the sake of goal setting almost always ends in disappointment. Goal setting is simply a tool to use in achieving a favorable outcome — what some people call a “Dream.”
Use positive language and the present tense when setting a goal. It is better to say “I weigh a healthy, trim and fit 60 kgs” than “I want to lose 20 kgs.”
Always put your goals in writing. Every expert agrees that setting a goal without putting it in writing drastically reduces your chances of success.
Goal setting should take place in every area of your life, including Health, Relationships, Spiritual, Career and Financial.
Setting Life Goals will add dimension, excitement and texture to your life. Failure doesn’t always mean that you did something wrong in your goal setting or implementation. It may just mean that the time you allotted for success wasn’t adequate. A thorough review process should be undertaken before setting the goal again.
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